I come from a family with a whole host of mental issues. My brother suffered from OCD, paranoia, and suicidal thoughts. My paternal grandfather was schizophrenic. But I got lucky and only had social anxiety issues. Emphasis on “had”.
Today, I want to share with you a little about social phobia in various forms. And how I overcame my symptoms of social anxiety.
Social anxiety statistics are skyrocketing
We all know the last few years haven't been easy on anyone. And sadly, more and more people are experiencing symptoms of social anxiety.
The Anxiety and Depression Association of America reports that social anxiety disorder (SAD) typically affects 40 million adults every year, which is approximately 19% of the population. But as recently as April 2022, 27% of adults had reported symptoms of anxiety disorder.
While the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) reported an estimated 31.9% of adolescents had an anxiety disorder back in the early 2000s. Today it is common knowledge that teens are suffering from anxiety symptoms at alarming rates.
Clearly, we need to do something different.
Types of anxiety disorders
With a wide range of mental and physical symptoms, social anxiety can range from a simple social phobia to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Here’s a basic understanding of the five primary types of anxiety disorders.
Generalized Anxiety Disorder- Excessive, uncontrollable, and often irrational worry about events or activities
Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD, also known as social phobia)- Fear and anxiety in social situations, causing considerable distress and impaired ability to function in at least some aspects of daily life
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)- Intrusive thoughts and/or feels the need to perform certain routines repeatedly to the extent where it induces distress or impairs general functioning
Panic Disorder- Recurrent unexpected panic attacks
PTSD- Mental/behavioral disorder that can develop because of exposure to a traumatic event
Please seek the advice of a mental health professional if you are experiencing any of these mental disorders.
Physical symptoms of social anxiety
Social anxiety can lead to some pretty alarming physical symptoms like blushing cheeks, trembling, trouble catching your breath, rapid heartbeat, and even being frozen and not able to think or move. But from the outside, someone might not be able to see any signs and symptoms.
I had never thought of myself as someone who suffered from social anxiety, but looking back at my childhood and into my teenage years, I definitely did! Thinking it was just shyness, I dismissed having all of the above telltale signs and symptoms.
I remember in grade school having an intense fear of just walking up to the pencil sharpener. I was afraid I wouldn’t know what to say if someone spoke to me. I literally planned two or three replies, praying that they might suffice if needed.
As a self-conscious teenager and young adult, my symptoms compounded. Attending any social situations resulted in painful trapped gas. The fear of being judged and not being good enough tied my insides in knots. Negative thoughts were rampant, and I suffered from low self-esteem.
Fortunately, I was introduced to meditation, and my personal life started to improve over time. Though it wasn’t until later that I discovered a breathing meditation technique that transformed my social anxiety into social ease!
More about that later.
Treating social anxiety disorder
What is the biggest contributing factor when it comes to anxiety? STRESS. Especially when that stress isn’t dealt with in healthy ways. But certainly, traumatic events and even your family history can contribute to anxiety disorders.
To best treat social anxiety disorder in any form, prevention and early intervention are vital. Here are a few ideas for treating anxiety before it becomes debilitating.
Since anxiety is always about something in the future that may or not happen, practicing mindfulness might be helpful. On the other hand, mindfulness in the face of anxiety takes considerable effort. It might be easier to learn a meditation practice that naturally brings your awareness to the present moment. Read this Popsugar article, If Mindfulness Practices Make You Anxious to learn about a different kind of meditation practice.
The importance of getting a handle on your stress levels cannot be overstated. Finding calm, while avoiding isolating yourself, is the easiest way to avoid mental health concerns. Try a multi-pronged approach including proper sleep, a balanced diet, massage, exercise, and meditation.
Become comfortable with being a little uncomfortable. Stretch your comfort zone by taking baby steps, while also being ok with some anxiousness. Why put yourself in uncomfortable situations? It’s called exposure therapy. Familiarity helps you get more comfortable. You will also likely realize that your worst imaginings are unlikely.
Before you develop a social anxiety disorder that becomes unmanageable, reach out to your primary care doctor or another healthcare professional. They can often give you tools to help.
SKY Breath Meditation for anxiety and depression
As I mentioned earlier, it was a breathing meditation technique that transformed my social anxiety into social ease. That technique is SKY Breath Meditation.
Thanks to SKY, I am comfortable with public speaking. I also enjoy planning parties and playing DJ! SKY helped me overcome social anxiety. SKY also helped my brother overcome his suicidal thoughts.
In over 100 independent studies, SKY was found to:
Significantly decrease clinical and non-clinical anxiety and depression
Reduce PTSD
Increase self-esteem and joy
Reduce addictive behaviors
Reduce high blood pressure and more
You can see why I have so much enthusiasm for SKY! I would like to personally invite you to attend a FREE breath and meditation session where you can learn more about SKY Breath Meditation. The session also includes a relaxing guided meditation.
Click below to choose your spot, and begin your journey to a calmer, happier life.
If you are feeling suicidal, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255.
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